Our love for Melissa McCarthy, a new way to remember CPR, the 19 Kids and Counting scandal and more. That’s what’s got us talking around the office this week.
1. The masterful way Melissa McCarthy shut down a sexist
We adored watching the amazing and talented Melissa McCarthy describe to Ellen the exchange she had with a reporter who had written mean things about how she’d looked in a film. Although she had every right to be enraged, she explained her position and thinking with patience and kindness, bringing the guy around to her way of thinking by asking him to consider if he’d want his own daughter to be told she wasn’t worthy of a job because of the way she looked.
2. This amazing way to remember how to do CPR
We’d just been thinking we should update our CPR when we saw this great video. It offers a light-hearted way to remember the correct speed for doing compressions during CPR, which has changed a lot since we first learned it in gym class. And the song in question couldn’t be more appropriate. Check it out.
3. J.K. Rowling’s reaction to sexy photos of Neville Longbottom
Okay, we know his real name is actually Matthew Lewis, but we can’t get over this actor’s transformation from his years portraying the loveable loser in the Harry Potter movies. In a very British fashion, author J.K. Rowling had an adorably scandalized reaction on Twitter. Check out the exchange here.
4. Sex-ed that turns boys into men
We think you’re going to be heartened to hear about Wiseguyz, a non-profit based in Calgary that has a pretty great approach to teaching boys about sex. Participants explore human rights, sexual health, gender and healthy relationships, which sounds like a winning combination to us. The program was started when the Calary Sexual Health Centre found that while teen pregnancy was town, STIs among teen boys were increasing, pointing to a propensity for risky behaviour. The idea is to ‘encourage boys to consider everything they’ve been taught about what it means to be a man, deconstruct it, and then think about how to become a good one.’ This story by parenting writer Leslie Garrett explains it well.
5. The Josh Duggar scandal
In an example of what can go horribly wrong when youngsters aren’t given proper guidance on appropriate sexual behaviour, we were all appalled by revelations that the 19 Kids and Counting Star had admitted to molesting at least five girls when he was a teenager, some of whom were his sisters. It’s very disturbing also that he was never charged and that the Duggar family (and possibly their network TLC) kept it under wraps this whole time. Instead, the Duggar family took the matter to the elders of the church, then to a state trooper and family friend for a ‘very stern talk.’ Right. That state trooper is now serving a 56-year jail sentence for some child pornography crimes. Nice company. We hope the TLC, which has become such a train wreck (it’s hard to believe it had it’s origins as ‘The Learning Channel,’) takes a long hard look at the morality of bringing this sort of programming into the world. In this case it clearly provided a shield of celebrity that stood between Josh and legal reckoning. TLC has at least temporarily pulled the show but it’s not known if that decision is permanent. A great way to show the network your discontent? Just don’t watch any of its sensational programming. Plus, it’s too nice outside to be inside watching Hoarding: Buried Alive anyway.
1. This supposed distraction infraction
We cheered on the Moncton teenager who took a stand against her school’s dress code last week. Lauren Wiggins, 17, was given a detention for wearing a full-length halter dress that bared her shoulders and upper back on the basis that the outfit was ‘a sexual distraction.’ When she complained to the vice-principal, she was given a one-day suspension. We’re as tired as Wiggins with a culture that puts the onus on girls to prevent boys from finding them sexy. Why not teach our boys about appropriate behaviour toward girls and women? It’s up to us as parents, and to schools as well, to encourage both genders to focus on the job all students are called upon to do at school—and that’s to learn.
2. Shoegate at Cannes
Speaking of the stuff we wear, our jaws dropped at the news that women were being turned away from the red carpet at The Cannes Film Festival for—wait for it—wearing flats. Yep, apparently a number of middle-aged women were turned away from the premier on Sunday of the Todd Hayne’s film Carol—incidentally a lesbian romance—for failing to meet the festival’s arcane dress code, which specifies that that women must wear heels. For reals. Too bad for you if you’ve been walking around the festival for days and have sprouted a crop of strappy-sandal blisters from the blistering Mediterranean heat. Or if high heels are just not your style. Too sexy. Not sexy enough. We can’t win.
3. Bully apologizes 20 years later
In a surprising twist on the usual stories about bullying and its tragic consequences, we loved this piece on our sister site, UrbanMoms.ca, about a man whose daughter inspired him to apologize to the person he bullied two decades before. His 10-year-old was working on a school project about bullying when she asked her dad if he’d ever bullied anyone when he was a kid. The question prompted the man to find his former victim through Facebook and send him a note of apology. It’s a touching story that’s really worth the read.
4. A great blog post on the power of saying sorry
And while we’re on the topic of apologies, we really loved this post by Savvy Storyteller Alex Durrell. Alex writes frankly about how her own approach to blogging has changed with some sober second thought about where honesty crosses over into hurtful and combative territory. And she shares about a desire many of us share—to raise kids that are kind.
5. A friend to remember
We’d like to conclude this week’s post with an important tribute to a friend who passed away suddenly on Monday night. Tracy Chappell, a highly respected member of the parenting media and mommy blogging world, was a senior editor at Today’s Parent. She was a beloved colleague and friend to many, known for her sunny disposition and sensitive approach to important stories. Our hearts go out to her family, especially her husband and two young daughters, Avery and Anna. Many who never even met Tracy felt they knew her through the blog she wrote for nine years, starting with her first pregnancy. Tracy wrote candidly about motherhood in a way that made you feel like you were talking to a trusted friend, and while she was a glass half full kind of person, she wasn’t afraid to share her parenting struggles, either. Today that blog is home to this wonderful tribute post. You can also follow the #shareyourhappy hashtag started by a friend of Tracy’s as a way of honouring this lovely woman’s positive outlook on life. So with Tracy in mind, please capture your happy moment and share it with the world as a small act of kindness to all those she’s left behind.