There’s a lot of pressure on parents these days. Social media isn’t making it any easier either with Pinterest and Facebook leading the charge of ‘look at my perfect life’ type pictures. Our standards are being raised every day but apparently there is still much room for improvement.
1. For example, spanking is out. That’s good. I recently read an article in the Wall Street Journal which said that yelling at and insulting your kids increases the risk of depression and aggressive behaviour. That makes sense to me. Nobody likes to be yelled at and put down by the people who you are looking to for approval from in the first place. A culture of respect should be enforced in any environment—be it the home, school, teams or the workplace. Still, if anyone has any tips on how NOT to raise your voice while living with teenagers, do tell.
2. While we’re on the topic of bad stuff people do, I saw another Jimmy Kimmel video last week that caught my attention. Maybe swearing isn’t as bad as yelling? These kids seemed to have turned out OK.
3. If you’re worried about not being able to control your language and volume, perhaps a nanny is the best option. Choose someone who is close to the family, perhaps even someone who changed your own nappies. That’s what Kate and William did for baby George. His new nanny is the very same one his daddy and Uncle Harry had. How lovely for him and his parents. I’m sure she never raised her voice.
4. If all of this stress is stressing you out too much, you have a choice. Apparently we can control our bodies response to stress and make it work for us rather than being harmful. How liberating is that? Instead of adding more stress to our lives by worrying if we have too much of it and how we should be reducing it, we can just accept that it is part of life and make it work for us. Here’s more from a TED Talks seminar on how to change our bodies’ response to stress.
5. Finally, from a parent who lives with more stress than any of us can even imagine, comes a letter about her daughter—one of the Sandyhook victims.
So don’t stress out too much about parenting. Just stop yelling, channel your energy and embrace your other stresses. Or just hire a royal nanny. That works too.
Now that reality is the new fiction/entertainment, I find myself doubting what’s true or false. Is everyone on Facebook really that perfect? Are we raising a generation of wimps? Can homegrown videos reach nine million people organically? Is bacon a food or an industry? And for the love of God, will the real James Franco please stand up.
1. It seems I’m not the only cynic in my house. Yesterday, my son showed me this article about a soccer team in Ontario that announced it was removing the ball from the game. Apparently, the parents decided that since they don’t score the games anymore (too competitive) they should just remove the soccer balls as well—so nobody gets hurt. My son was horrified and asked ‘MOM, is this for REAL?’ Fortunately, I was able to explain to him that not everything you read on the internet is true. Sometimes people post things to get attention—and perhaps even to make a point. It might get shared more that way, too. It is a hilarious article though, and well worth a read for any competitive sports parents.
2. Jimmy Kimmel, with all his wit and wisdom, is contributing to this culture of blurred lines between what’s real and what’s not. You have likely seen the viral twerking video seen by over nine million people last week. It was believed at first to be homegrown and authentic. Jimmy waited until every news channel on television and online promoted it before coming clean and admitting that he was the brains behind the operation. Interestingly though, he claims he made it with a cute stunt girl and popped it up on YouTube without any media support behind it. He wanted to make it look real, just like any regular guy, and see how it did—proving that in real life, anyone can make a clever home video that could be watched by 9M people in one week. Watch him tell the full story below. It’s a really funny video and the timing is perfect with the twerking—but do you really believe that those nine million viewers just happened? I think there might be more to the story.
3. Speaking of fooling the public, our very own Alison Rockwell, Toronto writer for SavvyMom, has been seen gallivanting with some of the stars at TIFF this past week. Apparently she was chatting with Mark Wahlberg about the kids menu at his new diner in TO’s SoHo Metropolitan Hotel. She also met James Franco. He was reportedly very friendly and open to speaking to many guests at the event. Then she woke up the next day (still basking) and learned that it wasn’t this guy she was flirting with.
It was that guy.
The fake Franco was living large at the festival until the real deal stepped in. Apparently they met and the fake Franco was invited to a party, but hasn’t been seen since. I’m glad the truth came out in this case—but could it have been a big publicity stunt by Franco’s publicist? I doubt it, but it’s still a good story. We’ll let you know more about Mark’s diner when it opens.
4. One ingredient I’m sure they are serving up at the Wahlberg’s diner (his brother is a chef) is bacon, because when it comes to bacon, it’s a world gone mad. A simple food item has transformed itself into a modern day industry. Here is the latest product available to consumers who are interested in creating the perfect bacon cup. Bacon lovers, you have been waiting for this.
5. Finally, with fall around the corner, I never seem to be sure about the way to wear my scarf. I often wonder if there is another way to wrap or tie the bloody thing and often feel insecure about the way it turns out. Everyone else seems to look so much cooler wearing theirs. Here’s help from PureWow.com—three simple ways to tie a scarf. You’re welcome.
Have a great week!