Last year we bought a little house on a large lot in a neighbourhood we loved. We gutted it, adding two floors and digging out the basement. The whole job took eight months. My husband, our five kids, our dog and me lived in the house the whole time.
It was one wild adventure. It made us a better family and I think it made me a better person. I learned a lot about parenting, about marriage, and about kids while living in the reno zone.
There were good reasons to stay in the house. For one thing, there were no houses to rent in the area and no apartment could house our brood. We wanted the kids to settle into the neighbourhood. We wanted them to stay at their school. Despite the mayhem around them, we wanted them to continue on with all their normal activities.
Oops. I used the word “normal”. Looking back on it from the comfortable confines of my renovated house, I think the biggest lessons I learned from this adventure had to do with the words normal and change.
While living in the reno zone, we chose to recognize and embrace change. The kids, who slept on single mattresses stuck together like Scrabble pieces, knew things were different. Why hide it? There was no TV, no computer, only books and board games surrounded by tools and materials. The kids, all powerfully driven by the pursuit of fun, adapted immediately. (It took my husband a little longer.)
I learned that some things shouldn’t change. We ate every meal together, sitting around the dinner table each night reviewing our days. By the way, an unplugged table saw makes for an excellent sideboard. Bedtime is bedtime, homework is homework, and the dog needs to be walked.
By keeping the basic structure of family life together, I realized that home is simply any place where we are all living together. It was rather liberating. This is probably the best reason why living in the reno zone felt so normal.
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What a great sentiment - home is a place where we are all living together!
I really like the message of this post as well. We haven’t lived through such a test YET but I’ll definitely try to keep this in mind should it ever happen.
I didn’t think I could feel better about our reno today but reading your post helped me do just that. Living through a reno that size for that long with five kids (!) and you’re able to talk about it in a positive light, rather than just seethe… you are a rock, woman!
We are currently in the middle of our third (and hopefully last) major reno in the past five years with two young kiddies (six months and two and a half) and our beloved cat underfoot in the chaos. Somedays I think I’m going to crack up with all of the mess, noise, costs, decisions and let’s face it, a heck of a lot of work (!) that come along with the job, even though I know we are lucky to be able to do it and have a healthy, generally happy family.
Some days are real toughies. Thanks for the pick-me-up.
We made the mistake of trying to save money by doing too much of the work on our kitchen reno ourselves. We completely gutted our kitchen, including the plumbing, and had to live without a kitchen for 6 months. Hubby and I had no problem building and hanging our own new cabinets, but we eventually had to pay professionals to save us from the plumbing and electrical mistakes of a well-meaning friend. We learned from our mistakes and in our new house, we are having everything done by professionals from the get-go. Sometimes it’s worth extra money to minimize the hassle.
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