Have you ever let your child win a game because it was just easier than letting them lose? The world loves a winner and why wouldn’t we want our child to feel like a winner?
Actually, there is a reason: this is Real Life and our child won’t always be a winner. It is important that your child learn how to win and lose with grace.
When kids are sore losers, or rude winners, other children don’t like playing with them. One of our parenting jobs is allowing our kids to lose and learn that they can get through it. Here are 3 tips to make that happen:
- Plan the end of the game before you start playing. Before you start that game of checkers, have the following conversation: ‘At the end of this game, someone is going to win and someone is going to lose. The last time you lost, there was lots of screaming. What will you say this time when you feel sad? What will you say if you win?’
- About 2 minutes before the end of the game, review the plan. Practice what will be said: ‘If you win, you are going to say ‘Great game mom, thanks for playing!’ If you lose, you will say ‘I wish that I had won, thanks for the game of checkers.’ If you feel like you need to, you can do 5 jumping jacks to get your mad out.
- Start a new habit. Make the game more about playing than winning or losing. At the end of the game, begin a tradition of everyone saying, ‘Thanks for playing with me!’ You might all shake hands, have a group hug or just high five. Show your child that all players—win or lose—can enjoy playing the game.
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It usually comes as a shock to people that most liver disease in Canada and the US is caused by food abuse and obesity and not by alcohol abuse. The liver of a 10-year-old overweight child who is fed junk all his years can be just as damaged as that of a 60-year-old alcoholic. Both conditions lead to cirrhosis and potentially cancer.
In fact, liver cancer is one of the very few cancers still on the increase. Why? Because people don’t know about the problem. One in ten Canadian has liver disease. Many, if not most, don’t even know about it until the condition is very advanced—perhaps irreversibly.
Your liver performs over 500 jobs and does so silently and judiciously. Among those jobs are the master tasks of managing your cholesterol, hormones and filtering your blood. You can’t survive without any one of those processes. The liver is the largest organ in the body—and it is the only organ that can regenerate itself.
The Canadian Liver Foundation is sounding the alarm that we can no longer marginalize liver disease as one caused by alcohol abuse alone. Diet plays a much bigger role as does the very preventable, treatable Hepatitis A, B and C. Many carry and transmit this virus without knowing it and yet simple, cost effective screening is available.
So, here is what you can do:
- Have your liver tested for its functionality. It is a simple blood test that you can request from your doctor.
- Have your liver tested for Hep A, B and C and get the appropriate vaccines.
- Remove as much sugar from your diet as possible, as well as bad fats and excess calories. Any healthy lifestyle choices that you make for your heart will also benefit your liver.
- Remove toxic cleaning products and air fresheners from your home—your liver has to filter these things out.
- Watch all drugs and herbal medications. Acetaminophen in particular needs to be managed, high doses and/or in combination with alcohol it is very damaging. So, when that children’s medication says a maximum dose per day, adhere!
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Theresa is a Food Communications Specialist and Nutritionist. Her French Canadian influences are a part of her 'no bologna' style as everything is on the table...not just the dinner. She has the unique ability to distill complex health concepts into simple, savvy steps to improve any lifestyle choice.
Theresa is a sought after media commentator and lifestyle pundit on many topics with a particular fascination with human relationships with food and culture. She has two books published in Canada and the US: Cook Once a Week, Eat Well Every Day
and Ace Your Health, 52 Ways to Stack Your Deck
She can be found on Twitter as @theresaalbert
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