Sometimes it’s hard to speak to our kids
Let’s face it.
Being a parent isn’t always easy. There are the day-to-day tasks and responsibilities that are part and parcel of the job: cooking dinner, doing laundry, helping kids with homework.
These are the things that we expect to do, as much as we often don’t feel like doing them. That’s what parenting is all about, right?
Of course, no parent can deny that every so often, there are those “must-do’s” that we’d rather ignore. You know – those very difficult conversations that we are confronted with, for one reason or another.
“Where do I come from?”
“Am I going to die?”
And in my son’s case, “Would I be taken away from you?”
Yes – this last question was both heartbreaking and, not surprisingly, difficult to answer.
The genesis of this question started to form in my son’s mind during February, Black History Month. He had been learning about slavery at school, and became curious about the very real and ugly reality of children of slaves being separated from their parents, and sold to the highest bidder.
As it’s not exactly the topic of pleasant conversation, it’s also not something that I wanted to speak to him about, but I had to. He had me cornered on more than one occasion during the month, and I couldn’t ignore his questions anymore.
The topic of difficult conversations was the basis for a recent radio program, one that I had been asked to be part of. My discussions with my son were featured in CBC Radio’s Now or Never show entitled “How Do You Start a Difficult Conversation?”
You can read more about my story here:
Listen to the full episode here:
You can also hear this and some of my other radio segments on my Soundcloud channel, here.