You're not obsolete, yet. Sure, they're picking out their own clothes and doing their own homework (ok, that's a work in progress), but they still need you to pay for their school essentials. Lands' End FeatherLight Backpack is one pack you'll both agree on. If the two big interior compartments with removable organizer pouch don't make you a fan, adjustable side straps that allow you to tighten or loosen the pack for stability (depending on fullness) will. The colour, detail, and monogram options she (or he) can pick will make your kid a fan too.