Keeping It All Together
I’m just like every other parent—busy. We have two children, Beckett who is turning three soon and Zoë, almost two. I work full-time for CTV and I’m eight-months pregnant with baby number three.
Although I believe that you can have it all, I also believe that some things have to be prioritized. I never go to after-work parties, restaurant openings, fashion shows, movies—all the events I went to before I had kids. I come straight home every single night because I want to put my kids to bed—and because I’m so freaking tired. I’m a natural homebody, so this is easy for me.
I choose sleep over the gym. I’d rather be chubby and well-rested than skinny and tired. I have great support. My husband and I have weird hours, so we are lucky to have family close by. We also chose to have a nanny and put Beckett in part-time daycare because it has been instrumental in his growth. Beckett has Down syndrome, so anything we can do to encourage and nurture his development is a priority in our family.
Some tips that help me find balance:
- Focus on your priorities—be willing to say ‘no’ if something isn’t on your list of priorities.
- Get organized—much easier said than done! I spend a lot of time fantasizing about being organized.
- Be flexible—which means to stop striving for perfection and be reasonable with your expectations.
- Create daily routines—I didn’t believe in routines before I had kids, I do now! Life is much smoother with a schedule.
- Find support—be willing to ask for help and to receive it. Family, friends, neighbours, professionals—anyone!
- Simplify your life—this is a tough one. Being busy doesn’t mean you’re important, it just means you’re busy and probably missing out on what’s really important.
Finding balance is truly a work in progress.